The Power of Solo Self-Care: Why Every Woman Should Take Herself on a Date

Back in December, I took myself on a date. A whole weekend away, just for me.

I booked a solo trip to Montreal, intending to attend an energy healing session with my life coach. But what started as a weekend for self-growth became something more—a self-romantic getaway, a love letter to myself.

Now, some of you might be thinking, Woah, a whole weekend alone? That sounds terrifying!

I get it. Years ago, I felt the same way. The idea of traveling solo, eating alone in public, or spending an entire day without plans with someone else used to make me anxious. I thought people would judge me. That I’d feel lonely. That I’d get bored.

But the more I challenged myself to spend time alone, the more I realized something powerful: learning to enjoy your own company is one of the most freeing things you can do.

Why We Struggle With Self-Romance

One of the biggest struggles I see among my female clients is the inability to slow down, listen to their own needs, and take time for themselves.

We are taught to give. To plan for everyone else first—our partners, our kids, our jobs, our friends. And when we do finally take time for ourselves? We feel guilty.

We wait for permission to indulge, telling ourselves:

✔️ I’ll book a massage once I hit my fitness goal.

✔️ I’ll take a solo trip when work slows down.

✔️ I’ll treat myself when I have a “real reason” to celebrate.

But here’s the truth: you don’t need to earn self-care. You don’t have to wait for someone else to create romance for you.

That’s what my Montreal trip taught me.

For one weekend, I listened to my body without guilt or logic. I let myself crave what I craved, indulge without shame, and move through the day based on feeling—not shoulds.

✔️ I upgraded my hotel room, just because I wanted a luxury bathtub.

✔️ I limited background noise for a mindful eating experience, savoring every bite of sushi and wine.

✔️ I wandered the holiday-lit streets, simply because they made me happy.

✔️ I soaked in a bath, read a book, and went to bed when I felt tired—without checking the time.

And I realized something: this is what self-love actually looks like.

It’s Time to Stop Waiting and Start Loving Yourself

If you find yourself waiting—for the right time, the right partner, the right excuse—stop.

Because the longer we wait for someone else to fulfill our needs, the more we send ourselves a quiet, damaging message:

I am only worthy of pleasure, indulgence, or romance when someone else decides I am.

So let this be your reminder: you don’t need a reason to take care of yourself.

You don’t need an occasion to enjoy your own company.

You don’t need anyone else to give you the romance you crave.

You can start right now.

Stay tuned for my next blog, where I share exactly how to plan the perfect solo date—even if you’ve never done it before.

Written by Lindsey Thomson, Registered Psychotherapist & Creatrix. Check out more of Lindsey's writing and her other free resources at www.mymomentummind.com.